angeles behavior expert wendy walsh. welcome to both of you. wendy, it's a different kind of stress, right, a special kind of stress, if you will, over the holidays. because you say getting together with relatives is the closest thing we have to a time machine. what did you mean by that? >> exactly. it's because we are just sort of held in our chairs by a centrifugal force which is our early family systems, be they good or be they bad, no matter how old we get, we become the 12-year-old at the table again, and the sibling rivalry stuff comes up again and mom's favorite gets special attention. everything goes back to that early family table. >> i was never mom's favorite. i know exactly what you're talking about. you know, richard, you know, i think a lot of this is about expectations, right? we have all these expectations of what the holiday season's going to bring, and then all of a sudden, it's very hard to meet those. and you say only a fool will go into this thinking everything will be fine. >> wendy's put her finger